daily love note: no.7

The Ballad of the Second Shortest Day of the Year

The second shortest day of the year (SSDOTY) had spent its entire life attempting to best the benchmarks of the day before it – the shortest day of the year (SDOTY).

A few years ago SSDOTY trailed SDOTY by just a handful of seconds.

A valiant effort it thought – keep training for next year.

SSDOTY tried all kinds of different things to outpace the SDOTY:

  • It tried being a Monday.
  • It tried being a Tuesday.
  • It tried being a Wednesday.
  • It never liked being a Thursday (comparison issues with being a Friday – everyone’s favorite day)
  • It tried being a Friday.
  • It tried being a casual Friday.
  • It tried being a Saturday.
  • It tried being a Sunday.

Each year – the results were the same.

Then the SSDOTY had a thought, “If I can’t be the shortest day of the year…maybe I can be something else. Maybe I already am.

And sure enough – it was:

One year, it was the coldest day on record in Clam Falls, MN.

And another year, it was the warmest day on record in Cancun, Mexico.

Both notable somethings to be.   

It was a birthday…for literally millions of people – that was certainly something.

It always outpaced the third shortest day of the year – a day almost no one thought about.

And the SSDOTY consistently beat the longest day of the year’s record for finishing a day – by a long shot.

Also a notable somethings!

Yes, SSDOTY was something, for sure.

And that was really all it needed – to be.

daily love note: no.6

The morning routine of a successful armed robber:

Wake up.

Try to remember that weird dream you had where a genie finally granted your wish to have more wishes.

(Write it down in your dream journal – quick!)

Do robber exercises – knee-highs and light yoga.

Pick an outfit: all black, horizontal stripes; hat/no hat. Gloves? Be mindful of the season.

Check the weather.

(Gloves weather)

Brush teeth with organic flouride-free toothpaste you stole from that fancy grocery store.

Then brush with regular toothpaste…because: let’s be real, that organic stuff never leaves you feeling all that clean.

Do your daily affirmations:

May I have all the money in the bag – large bills only.

I will have all your money.

May someone else’s stuff eventually become my stuff.

May people value their lives more than their things.

May every new day be full (of stuff I can steal).

Do 10 mins of “stick-em-ups” in the mirror (using your finger; not actual gun).

Smile at yourself; because, “Hey, look at you go! Remember when you thought you would never be a morning person?!

daily love note: no.5

It’s a rainy one today.

This is where you could say something like…”after the storm comes the sun…” or “rain, rain, go away. If you don’t, I’ll call my lawyer…” or however that phrase goes.

But what is rain? (he ponders)

Rain comes from a sky that is saturated with too much.

Rain is release.

It is unbridled, all over the place, and essential.

Sometimes, when you’re in it…

it’s unpleasant.

But it always leads to growth.

Relinquish some control today: let go of the things that saturate your mind with too much.

The sound of rain is therapeutic for a reason.

daily love note: no.4

When was the last time you shared something with someone?

And not out of obligation:

There is only so much of this and I have some and you don’t so I will share to not look selfish.

The kind of sharing you do to advocate for something. 

What was your motivation to share?

The old adage states that “sharing is caring.” Caring is nice. That’s a good motivation.

But advocates oftentimes have agendas. 

Why do we share?

We share because we want others to understand our experience…and typically, we share when we believe sharing will lead to a shared experience – empathy.

That is why we get defensive when people don’t like the things we like – it conflicts with our view of the world.

So, while sharing is caring…in order to truly be caring, we must first have empathy for the people we share with.

We must acknowledge their perspective – making them much more likely to want to understand our own.

That is nice.

daily love note: no.3

I love the calm of winter.

(Maybe it’s an evolutionary thing? Slowing down – eating more. Hibernating.)

Winter feels like a deep breath.

One you take in with a clean palate – surrounded by crisp blankets of insulation. 

The acoustics add a nice touch of presence.

Breath work becomes the clothes we wear: hats and scarves and big jackets that make our heavy breathing more noticeable; more audible; visible.

Take some time to consider your breath today.

Take deep breaths before you eat (and eat more).

Take deep breaths before you sleep. 

Take a deep breath right now (unless you’re drinking something or eating something…I’ll wait). 

Feel good?

Good. 

Forget the bustle of the holidays.

Leverage the calm of winter to engage your diaphragm – consciously.

Breath is the gift of presence.

Breath is the calm of winter.

daily love note: no.2

I have one big problem with patience: it is reliant on an outcome.

This is what makes patience so tricky. It can easily skirt the lines of entitlement if left unchecked.

Like a hopeless romantic orchestrating elaborate deeds of affection to win a lover.

But what if we removed the reigns of expectation?

Did good things just to do them. Not for photo op, good story, or attempt to win someone over.

That changes the game completely. That is the power of contentment.

Patience – expectations = contentment

Contentment gets a bad wrap when it is saddled up next to patience.

We have engineered contentment to be submissive to our circumstances – more akin to a quiet sadness than a quiet heart.

The paradigm needs a shift, though.

This is my hope for you: 

May you be content.

May you let patience rest from so many years of work.

When you leave this world; may you leave it unconfused.

daily love note: no.1

Q: What makes a good gift?

A: A good thought.

If it isn’t mindful; a gift is really just another thing.  

Sure, you may have taken some time to go buy that thing…

But if that is the “thought…” on paper it sounds more like the “inconvenience.”

It’s the inconvenience that counts.” 

This is where gifting can get you into dangerous territory:

You stack up this feeling of inconvenience like old boxes of stuff you’ll never get rid of.

You hoard it.

And when you hoard it: you start to resent it.

Giving, when done well, is reciprocal – it isn’t stacked old boxes.

It’s useful. It has purpose.

Think good thoughts and give good gifts.