daily love note: no.1

Q: What makes a good gift?

A: A good thought.

If it isn’t mindful; a gift is really just another thing.  

Sure, you may have taken some time to go buy that thing…

But if that is the “thought…” on paper it sounds more like the “inconvenience.”

It’s the inconvenience that counts.” 

This is where gifting can get you into dangerous territory:

You stack up this feeling of inconvenience like old boxes of stuff you’ll never get rid of.

You hoard it.

And when you hoard it: you start to resent it.

Giving, when done well, is reciprocal – it isn’t stacked old boxes.

It’s useful. It has purpose.

Think good thoughts and give good gifts.

Reviews of Arbitrary Unconventional Self Care Products – Rocks

what is self care and why should I (self) care?

At your last power Yoga class, you overheard someone utter “self care” while mopping up the remnants of their yoga mat. You nodded your head in agreement…smiling through the silent shame of not knowing what the heck they were talking about.

In a nutshell, self care is a term thrown around frequently with a flair of ambiguity and vagueness.

It’s sexy; defying definition, but also definitively sounding like something that will be expensive to actually do.

Here at luvdaily we’re attempting to demystify self care and translate it into something more approachable (re: inexpensive or less French-sounding). 

So, ditch the shame-smile while we take you on a transformative self care journey with: rocks. What is more definitive than rocks?

the hows, whats, and whys of self care with rocks.

what are rocks?

We get asked this question all the time: what even are rocks?!

Rocks, as it turns out, are hard bits of minerals that have been compacted together over time – forming various layers of our Earth’s surface.

Pretty neat, huh?

Rocks, as it turns out, are hard bits of minerals that have been compacted together over time – forming various layers of our Earth’s surface. #rocks #neat #science #wewillwewillrockselfcare Click To Tweet

why are rocks important?

On a more existential level, rocks represent the building blocks of our life journey. They comprise our roads, nature trails, and tiny Zen sand gardens kept at our desks to look more enlightened!

Rocks, as noted earlier, are also minerals. Minerals are essential to our physical health. So, the more rocks = better.

how to use rocks for self care?

There are several ways to use rocks for self care – they can alleviate pain, reduce inflammation, heal your gut (still not clear how…), and ward off anxiety.

Like most things, though, recreational rock use is best deployed when you have carefully defined goals.

Got your goals defined? Great!

ways to self care with rocks

1. For Alleviating Physical Pain – Rocks are basically Mother Nature’s foam roller (if your foam roller was made of rocks, that is). 

Rocks are basically Mother Nature’s foam roller (if your foam roller was made of rocks, that is). #facts Click To Tweet

Suffering from back pain? Find a bed of rocks and just lay on them for a while. Soon you’ll realize that laying on rocks is way more painful and sad than your back pain was – healed!

2. For Reducing Inflammation – Inflammation (aka bloating) is often very noticeable on the face – rings around the eyes, puffy cheeks, etc. To mitigate this with rocks, you need three things: a football helmet, trusted friend, and (yeah, you guessed it!) rocks.

After completing the Inflammation Mitigation Triad (™ pending), find a nice open field to stand in. Next, have your friend throw the rocks at every part of your body, from the neck down – using the football helmet as protection for your already horribly inflamed face.

Afterwards, the rest of your body will be more swollen and inflamed than your face! #selfcarethatgetsresults

3. For Warding Off Anxiety – Rocks are a great way to extricate the tumultuous dread of daily life! 

Rocks are a great way to extricate the tumultuous dread of daily life! #selfcare Click To Tweet

And super simple to do!

First, find a rock – any rock will do, but preferably one that will fit in your hand. Then, channel all of your anxieties and worries directly into the rock. (Note: if you have a hard time doing this, try naming the rock first. Use a name of someone who tends to cause you anxiety. Trust us, this is a completely normal – totally healthy thing to do)

After you’ve chosen and named your rock, go to a nearby body of water (if no water nearby, use your bathtub or a large bowl). Throw your rock as hard as you can into the water – utter profanity as an added bonus!

Feel better? We knew you would!

Pro Tip: If feeling some residual shame from angrily throwing your pet rock into water, try apologizing to the water, as well as the rock. This should close the loop on any lingering anxiety you have afterward.  

how not to use rocks for self care

While the benefits of using rocks for self care are bountiful; it should be noted that the “more is better” principle does not always apply to them – as you will clearly see in the video below:

Contrary to what some “experts” may suggest – this is not proper self care, and can actually do more harm than good.


the review

Rocks rock. 

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Rocks are a dynamic, organic (and affordable), and easy-to-use self care product. We highly encourage you to incorporate rocks into your self care regimen.



freemium version available anywhere with an “outside”

ease of use


rocks may be “hard,” but they sure are easy to use!



try and change our mind on this one

FAQ about rocks as self care products

Can I use any rock for self care?

Yes; however, certain rocks are optimal for different applications. Determine your goals before picking up any old rock to use as a self care tool.

Where can I find rocks to use for self care?

You can find rocks just about anywhere – look outside! If you want to self care like a pro,  go to a specialty rock store or aggregates quarry.

Are rocks vegan?

Yes! They are also gluten free and non-GMO. Some have been tested on animals, though…but that was a long time ago; before humans understood the concept of moral superiority.

how do you “rock” self care! (get it?!)

Drop a comment below with any rock self care pro tips or questions. 

the five pillars of trying something new

why does trying something new seem so scary?

it all comes down to our perception of two words: “the unknown.”

most people don’t like those words – we like to know. 

not knowing leads us to question our reality; our comforts:

will I like this new thing?

will I learn I was wrong about something?

what is wrong with the things I already like?

what if I fail trying this new thing?

these are tantalizing rabbit holes to follow for a person taught to fear the unknown. each leading to a choose-your-own adventure of crippling self-loathing that will ultimately end in the achievement of nothing; breathing heavily into a metaphorical paper bag, in the midst of existential crisis. 

but let us take a step back – climb out of those rabbit holes and unpack a little.

contrary to how I have just pitched the concept of “trying new things…” and where it can lead…

let us take the high road – let’s get comfortable with the unknown. 

(we’re called luvdaily, after all…)

this post will walk you through the five pillars of trying something new, help you grow empathy for the unknown, and maybe even empower you to try something new. 

we’ll use food as our example. 

no change for me, thanks.

do you have a favorite restaurant? when you go there what do you typically order?

if you are anything like me…your order probably never changes.

(and why should it? the fajitas are incredible! YOU TRY SOMETHING NEW! *ravenously gorges on fajitas in corner with sympathy margarita*)

in this scenario the lack of trying something new seems acceptable, right? 

we know what we like – there is simply no desire to change. when we scan the menu, it is only for the purpose of confirming our favorite dish still exists. 

(and it always does…put the bag back – phew.)

the first pillar of trying – we have to want to try (start small)

now, say you are meeting friends at a new restaurant.

you have already opened yourself to a new experience by going somewhere new.

this was a choice.  

(pat yourself on the back you non-fajita-eating adventurer!)

making small changes like this is a great way to open yourself up to the possibility of greater change. 

pillar number two – identifying our habits

when you walked into the restaurant your preexisting desires were probably limited to fulfilling a base need – hunger. 

now, do a little exercise: 

as you glance over the menu, what is it you are looking for? do you look for something similar to your favorite dish? or, do you remain open to all these new options, in hopes you may find a new favorite?

you have so many different options! what will satisfy your base desire?

ah, but what’s this? a version of your favorite staple on new restaurant’s menu?

*we are creatures of comfort – somewhere in your brain, you will log this menu offering as a “in-case-there-is-nothing-else-that-sounds-better-I-will-default-to-this” option. 

this is perfectly normal – and really, if you tried the comfort food here…it would still be something new. 

but you’re bolder than that – pillar three will equip you with even more power to change.*

the third pillar of trying – make the argument for change

your eye keeps floating back to the old favorite – tempting you with what you know. it calls to you.

(*whisper voice* “fajitaaaaaaaaaaaaaasssss” *pan sizzling sounds*)

you have come this far…to a new restaurant – subverting desire and old habits. but with this new information, what is your next step?

(adjust for context.) 

would you order fajitas at an Irish pub?

i would certainly hope not.

the fourth pillar in trying new things – follow through

when the server approaches, you begin to stress:

“why did Karen make us go to this Irish pub, anyway?! how can Irish fajitas be good? do they even have skillets in Ireland?!?!”

(deep breaths. deep breaths.)

don’t let “comfort creep” dilute the progress you have already made.

take a step back. 

“I am hungry. this is my base desire. I did not come here only to seek fajitas. I am in a new place that likely does not understand the intricacies of fajitas…and should I default to them, they may only remind me of what I could have had if I never came to this restaurant in the first place.”

“I’ll have the haggis nachos, please.”

(brave choice!)

pillar number five – accept your choice and move on

as you pick through the last  bits of your dinner, you may find that you didn’t like what you ordered…

and that is okay. 

the fact is, you aren’t always going to like the new things you try – but instead of wallowing in feelings of “fajita-fomo”; choose to accept the nourishment your meal provided and realize that you are still here – with the opportunity of future fajita-filled days ahead. 

realize that it is just as important to discover things that we don’t like. 

make some change 

understanding the foundational elements of change helps us grow into our best selves. it reminds us that the world is full of choices and that it is not so scary if we acknowledge the little changes happening all around us – all the time. 

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